Monday, 17 March 2025

Looking back; looking forward.


Where is that young man that I used to know? That eager Art Student with such great ideals and ambition.

Where is that lush wavy hair, that full set of teeth, and infectious smile? 

Little did he know, whilst sitting in that chair, that he would soon meet the girl of his dreams, end-up with three children, and spend 50 years living in the South of France. The world was certainly his Oyster, and he was to consume them by the dozen.


I remember him as a bonviveur. He loved food, wine, and untipped Gauloises cigarettes. He enjoyed the better things of life. He also lived a very waste-free existence. He had a large vegetable garden, plenty of fruit trees, and a medium sized Chestnut plantation. He ploughed his own land, where he sowed and harvested Maize and Wheat, and he had a large run-full of Chickens and Ducks. He lived 'The Good Life', even before 'the good life' had been invented. 

In time he lost some of his 'sparkle'. His children grew-up and moved away, he moved to a smaller home, and eventually divided his time between the South of France and the South of England.

Now he is getting old. His mobility has become limited. The bushy hair and endearing smile have gone, and he walks his black and white dog with a rolling gait, a silver topped cane, and the occasional grimace. He is no longer that young man that he still likes to think he is.

He contemplates. He reads. He fills-in countless crosswords. He still enjoys his food and drink, but no longer scours the earth for the finest cafés or restaurants. His dancing days are over too, and he is now more likely to watch 'Strictly' than be seen performing a jig at the local fêtes.

He no longer has a studio in which to work, or even the desire to do so, so his painting days are over, and his life's previous output must suffice.

Luckily his wit remains, and he enjoys good company. He will still search the woods for the very best mushrooms. and he still grows much of his own fruit. His 'second home' garden is a passion, and he tends it with pride. He will swim, he will BBQ, and he will enjoy the sunshine.

So, now he studies the faces of his grandsons, and sees something of himself there. He has watched them grow into fine young men. His hope for them is that they have as much fun in life as he once had, and that their wives give them sons and daughters that they can be proud of too.

33 comments:

Christina said...

This brought a tear to my eye........

Cro Magnon said...

That wasn't my intention. Sorry!

JayCee said...

My goodness Cro. This sounds like a farewell!
I hope that man sticks around for quite a while longer.

Cro Magnon said...

Just a realistic reflection on 'ageing'.

Susan Heather said...

I didn't realise you grew maize and wheat. Was that to feed your fowl or did you mill it? At least it sounds as though you must still be reasonably mobile if you are planning on searching for mushrooms in the woods. That's good.

Cro Magnon said...

I originally grew wheat to exchange with the village baker for bread. Unfortunately I didn't spray against weeds and when harvested it had all sorts of wild seeds in it, and he wouldn't take it. It went for Chicken food. The Maize I sold as cattle fodder. I wasn't the world's best farmer; but I did my best!

Le Pré de la Forge said...

Cro.... " so his painting days are over".... no, you've just changed medium.... you've painted a wonderful picture called "A Life".... but using words!

Lizzie said...

What a wonderful post! If you could give that young man one piece of advice from your older self, what would it be?

Cro Magnon said...

That's very kind. It was all prompted by finding the photo. It seemed like such a long time ago.

Cro Magnon said...

To be more 'assertive'. I've never been one to promote my work; I should have been.

Poppypatchwork said...

Such beautiful words to show the realism of growing old.

Sue G said...

I found myself doing the same thing yesterday as well. Took a selfie of myself and then looked at it and thought 'that cannot be me!' - I look like a passport photo, very depressing!

Yorkshire Pudding said...

This is a great piece of reflective writing Crozier. Well done sir!

However, a more important question might be: Where is that stripey shirt?

northsider said...

You have got the start of a very good memoir there Cro.

local alien said...

What a wonderful salutation. You lived life as it should be lived from young to old.
It does sound like a eulogy. Keep a copy for future use lol

Cro Magnon said...

It comes to us all (if we're lucky).

Cro Magnon said...

Keeping looking at the old photos when you were 'sweet sixteen'.

Cro Magnon said...

I can remember that I loved that shirt. It was made from some very light Indian material.

Cro Magnon said...

I think I'll quit whilst I'm ahead.

Cro Magnon said...

Looking back, I was a bit foolhardy. I just did things as I fancied. I still do, I suppose.

Travel said...

Inside every 80 year old, is a 20 year old thinking, what happened? What happened is we have had a good and well lived life, we have accumulated wisdom, and we still have much to share.

Cro Magnon said...

Exactly! And it all goes by so quickly.

Haven't got one. said...

This made me cry. Too close to home.

Cro Magnon said...

It wasn't meant to be emotional. I apologise.

Susan said...

I have to say, Kimbo looks just like you. Good genes Cro! You can be very proud of the life you have and the wonderful extended family you've created.
The garden, woodland mushrooms, and swimming pool are awaiting your arrival.

Cro Magnon said...

I'm not looking forward to the drive down, but I'll survive. It's the daily swimming that I enjoy the most.

Gemma's person said...

To be able to look back upon such a fine life,well, it is fulfilling. You have achieved all you have needed in life and now to gently live your life to the best of your abilities...time to consider the fine things you have done and produced. Time to be proud and content in what you have achieved. Relax,retire and enjoy the good things that you now love. Your wife, your life,good friends , good food...time to enjoy all of it my dearest friend. Love to you and yours. Beth

Gemma's person said...

The telling was so wonderful the writing hits home for most of us, I am sure.

Cro Magnon said...

I don't think I'm really either proud or content (perhaps a bit), but I certainly intend that the fun continues until I can no longer cope; and I hope that'll be quite some while yet.

Traveller said...

Do you go from Dover or take the ferry to Caen?

Cro Magnon said...

No. From Newhaven to Dieppe. 4 hours at sea.

Sal said...

What wonderful words! And a wonderful celebration of his life so far. Have a very happy day! 😁 ( Sal’s Snippets blog)

Coppa's girl said...

Happy memories Cro! Remember it's not the actual years, it's how you feel in your head! My head tells me that I'm still a young thing but the mirror tells me something else entirely!
My paints are gathering dust too, but I still feel I should get them out, set up my easel and canvas and try a few daubs!

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